Enjoying your life and doing what's right for you is not evil or selfish.

With me it's my mother and now maybe my brother. My mother goes around early in the morning saying she has to go through things and throw out her stuff before it rains. She gets very hyper, neorotic and paranoid over nothing. Later I go to give her the mail and she says "What the fuck do you want? Are you ready? I was doing something?" and than she tells me I have an attitude. My only option until I can go LOCO or Low Contact is to train myself to not deal with them except for when it's extremely necessary. And every fight is a challenge. She yellls at me "I only think about myself" and than I say NO, that's you. and my mothers like "Damn straight that's me from now on." So after she accuses me of being selfish and evil she goes on how she has a right to be that way. Doesn't make sense. I don't really think they have the ability to think about anyone else. Even when I am being nice to them I get attitude and they don't even admit they were nasty. One thing I noticed with my mother and Aunt they don't like a clutter or things near them or around them. If you babysit my Aunts cat and buy some food and offer to leave new ketchup or unopened soda at her place. She will throw it out. They automatically know everything like my mother and Uncle. "I know the cats don't like your cat food because it's dry I know they won't eat it and so they just get rid of it."